How to make your anger work for you!

JUN. 8, 2026

How to make anger work for you (2)

"Sensible people control their temper." Pr 19:11 NLT

Anger scares many of us because we've been harmed by it. But anger can be evidence that a person cares about someone or something. Nothing wrong is ever made right without someone becoming angry about it. If you shut down all anger, you eliminate passion, intimacy, and love. 

Here are two ways to make anger work for you: 

(1) Direct your anger at the right target. Your spouse is not the enemy; Satan is. He comes to "steal, and to kill, and to destroy" (Jn 10:10 KJV). He's the one trying to drive a wedge between you. Consciously move your focus from your spouse to the problem. 

For example, 

• get angry at your lack of finances, not your spouse's spending. 
• Get angry at demands pulling you in different directions, not your spouse staying late at work. 
• Get angry at the limitations on intimacy, not your spouse saying no to sex. 
• Put the problem "out there," separate from you and your spouse. 
• See yourselves as fighting the problem together. 

Attack the problem, not each other. 

(2) Look for the pain. Find the pain that triggered the anger; it's almost always there. Look for it in your spouse and in your own heart. What need isn't being met? What wound has been exposed? What shame or fear is aroused? When you identify the pain, you'll be miles closer to the solution. But beware! By being vulnerable, you may end up wounding each other sometimes; acknowledge it and forgive quickly. Staying engaged while risking vulnerability will increase intimacy more than anything else. So embrace anger as God's gift, and learn how to make it work for you.

How to make anger work for you Direct your anger at the right target.

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Transcript

Opening Prayer For Wholeness

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There is none like you. We thank you, oh God, because you are our redeemer. We thank you because you are my helper. We thank you because you are the one who makes us whole. Wholeness is not in any man, wholeness is in you. And because we have you in us, then we are made whole by the power in your name, by your spirit. So we thank you for wholeness this morning. We thank you, oh God, for alignment. We thank you for realignment. We thank you for positioning. We thank you, oh God, for spiting us where we need to be. And we thank you for fulfilling your purpose in our lives. We thank you because we are never alone and we never walk alone. Because we have a father that stick with us, even closer than our brothers and sisters. So we thank you because we know you are advocates, you speak on our behalf, you defend us, you fight for us. Lord, we thank you. We give you praise, oh God, because you are God who is able. We thank you. Blessed be your holy name, oh God, as we go into your world this morning. We pray, oh God, the Lord, you will have your way. You will do that, which only you can do, oh God, in our midst, and your name alone will be glorified in the name of the Father, in the name of the Son, and the name of the Holy Spirit. In Jesus' most precious name, we have prayed. Amen.

Why Anger Is Not Always Bad

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Praise the Lord, and good morning, everyone. Today is the 8th, uh, Monday, 8th, 20 uh June, the month of June 2026. Um, but we're going to be um briefly, we're gonna briefly look at um the seventh, which was the one for yesterday. And the reason for that is because what we're talking what we're gonna be talking about is in parts. Part two is what we had to do today, but we are going to you know go through part one, then we spend more most of the time in part two. Uh, the title is how to make anger work for you. The caption says, I cannot control my anger. Now, when we look at the topic, how to make anger work for you. Um, often we look at anger as something demonic, something that is really bad, something that shouldn't even be at all. But here the writer wants us to look at it from a different perspective. And the perspective here is basically talking about the fact that anger is not altrightly bad, it's a matter of what you do with it and how you are able to manage it. Everything in life that God made provision for, if it's not well managed, it can cause disaster. When God gives a man power, power can destroy. If God gives a man um, you know, wealth, wealth destroys. Everybody have seen that. We have all seen that, right? If God, when God gives you know a man anything, if it's not well managed, that same thing can cause destruction. And because of this, it is very important for us to look into the fact that God gives us all of these things in order to make sure that we live a life that is full and rich. But unfortunately, this same thing have or the devil can also weaponize this same thing to use against us. So this morning we're gonna be looking at anger and look at how we can best use it instead of it being used against us, and we're gonna be reading from the book of James, chapter 1, and verse 19.

James 1:19 And Self-Control

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James 1 and verse 19, and it says, Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters, you must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. As we all know, oftentimes when things happen that is not according to what we want, either our plans or people do things we least expected of them, or things go sideways and all of that, it has a way to trigger anger in us and make us feel differently from the feeling of satisfaction of uh or feeling of you know um of achievement that is we planned it this way and it worked out, right? Um, but when it goes the other way, it gets us angry, you know. People say things we don't want, we don't expect from them, and all of that, right? But here we're gonna look at you know a perspective this morning, and I read what we have. It said, you can use anger to actually deepen the bond and intimacy between you and your spouse. Here's how number one, acknowledge the place of anger. I love the way the writer started it. Acknowledge the place of anger, understand, admit that you're hangry, right? And it says, a person ruled by anger is not safe, healthy or wise. Now, did they say someone who is hangry? They said the writer says a person ruled by hanger is not safe, not healthy or wise. That is being hangry is not bad, but when hunger gets out of control, then that person here says it's not safe to be around. The person is not healthy, and when you're not healthy, you know what to pass to others, or it is not wisdom. That's basically what I say, right? And it says, Whoever has no rule over his spirit, his own spirit, Proverbs 25-28. Whoever, that is, it doesn't matter the class, the level, the age of the individual. He said, Whoever doesn't have what rule over his own spirit, whoever he said it's like a city broken down without walls, so which means that a lot of things can go wrong from one thing, a lot of things can go wrong from one single thing. What starts it will be anger, and other things that comes will be, you know, words that shouldn't have come out. Yesterday I was having a conversation with you know some um teenagers in their 15, 16, 17, and all of that. We're talking about, you know, those who use profanity words and all of that. And usually the excuse they give is, you know, I was hangry, and that's what I use it. And by the time they have used what they would say, what they have what they wanted to say, they say, Oh, skill, excuse my language. And I ask them, does that make it acceptable? And the answer I got from them is no, you can have used a different word even when you're angry. So when you are ruled by anger, you say things you are not supposed to say, you do things you are not supposed to do. That when your eye clear, like they say, where I came from, you discover that you feel ashamed, you feel you feel you have not handled things well. It says, think of the emotion as a flare sent up by your brain, telling you there's something you need to deal with. Find your own way to acknowledge your feelings. If you struggle to control your anger,

Acknowledge Anger And Cool Down

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take a walk and let the temperature decrease. It's basically giving us a way out when hunger is happening or is brewing, and when you begin to see it, the best thing you need to do is find what works for you. At times you might not be able to walk away from certain places, right? Maybe you are in a meeting, you're hungry. If you are home, you're hungry, you have the freedom to walk away, right? So, whatever works at a time needs to be implemented. It's like a tool, right? You make use of it. Says then come back, re-engage, and deal with the issue. I love this part. That doesn't mean that when you walk away, that is the end of the conversation. No, it only means that you don't want the wrong thing to come out of your mouth, or for you to display the lack of better words, foolishness. In that period, you walk away, then you come back, then you can now have conversation objectively and not ruled or controlled by

Stay Safe And Stay Engaged

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anger. Number two, don't run away. If you truly, if you are truly in danger, you need to get somewhere safe. I love this part as well. If you are truly in danger, don't think about it, walk away immediately. Unfortunately, um in some countries across the globe, um, a little hanger can get somebody shot. It's what we have seen, we've heard, we've read, right? Oh, the person got angry, they were having an altercation, and boom. Where I grew up, people are angry with each other, they punch each other, they fight and all of that. I am not saying all that is acceptable, right? It's never acceptable, it doesn't matter how we look at it, and that is why they're giving us this to say that listen, you have to find a way to rule over your anger. Do not allow hunger to take over your life because it destroys, it destroys every time it destroys. If you're truly in danger, you need to get somewhere safe. But if not, staying engaged with your spouse validates the feelings of both of you. At least both of you are hangry, you and your wife. Right? Staying to have that conversation, if it's safe to have it, if both of you are not going to attack each other's character, if both of you are not going to engage in uh character assassination, right? And he says, if not, determine to deal with it before going to that to sleep that night. You may not find the solution to the whole problem, but make a pact to diffuse the situation before the day ends. Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the what? To the devil. Ephesians 4 26 to 27. If necessary, schedule a time to address the issue. You both deserve it, and your marriage worth it. So here we have been given the way to be able to address this situation when it occurs.

Resolve Conflict Before Night Ends

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And I pray the Lord will continue to help us in Jesus' name. We're going to be reading part two. We're going to be reading from the book of Proverbs, chapter 19, and verse 11, and it says, Sensible people control their anger. Sensible people, that is, people who are wise, they control their anger, they do not allow anger to control them. I read, anger cares many of us because we've been harmed by it. But hanger can be evidence that a person cares about someone or something.

Proverbs 19:11 And Righteous Anger

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Nothing wrong is ever made right without someone becoming angry about it. I stop there. We have seen those who have advocated for things in life. Either the one we have read in the story, you know, history, or the ones happening right now. That no, things shouldn't be going on like this. We've seen it in politics, we have seen it in, you know, in uh, you know, those you know, who are advocating for the emission, right? Against the emission of gas, right? That's destroying our planet. These people are angry that things are going the way they are going, and they're advocating, asking questions, you know, and as a result of all of this, we discover that you know policies are being made, policies are being set in cause, implementation of things are being are happening in order for us to turn, you know, the the the to change things to make things better. So, in essence, nothing is wrong with anger if it's for a good cause. Said if you shut down all hanger, you eliminate passion, intimacy, and love.

Aim Anger At The Real Problem

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Here are two ways to make anger work for you. Number one, direct your anger at the right target. Oftentimes, when hanger is going on, one of the things that usually happen, particularly in a relationship, is we attack each other, which we call character assassination, right? Instead of attacking the issue, we attack each other. You did this, you did this, you did this. And when we look at it, the person did it, yes. But how have we actually addressed the main issue? Right? Have we actually addressed the main issue? It says, Your spouse is not the enemy, Satan is. He comes to steal and to kill and to destroy. John 10 10. Here is one trying, is the one trying to drive a wedge between you. The reality is where there is peace, the devil's intention is to cause chaos. The devil is to cause chaos, right? So we must be wise. We must be what must be wise to make sure that we do not allow the devil to lay hold on our lives. And here it says, number one, direct your anger, and it says, Is the one trying to drive away between us? Consciously move your focus from your spouse to the problem. For example, get hangry at your lack of finance or finances, not your spouse's spending. Now, oftentimes, I know that this we can look at it from different ways, right? If it's excessive spending, right, might be we might look at it differently that you know what we need to look at our spending. These are what comes in for us, right? Have intelligent, structured, and you know, deep thought conversation, right? Other than just lashing out, because what hangar will make us do is to lash out. That's what hangar will make us do. But when we have conversation to adults, when we have conversation, it's more productive than all we do is to lash out at our spouse. The next it says, get angry at demands, pulling you in different directions, not your spouse staying late at work. Right? When we are hangry, emotion takes over. We don't even want to know why. Oftentimes we don't ask questions to understand. It's more about I want to tell you what is on my mind. But the reality is, after we have said all what is on our mind, before we even hear or listen to our spouses, we discover that if they are able to manage their own anger and not to respond the way we have talked, right? At them, then we will now discover that how I wish I had just waited like a few minutes and hear them out. My perspective will have been different, and what came out of my mouth will have been different. So, what this is saying is that we should not allow anger to rule over us, because every time it does, it spoils things, it destroys things, it destroys things. He said, Pull the problem out there, separate from you and your spouse. See yourselves as fighting the problem together because every time we point finger at our spouses, every time we point finger at our children, you know, something there's something going on in the place of my bad right now that I just keep thinking about. It really bothers me. I was thinking about it, you know, you know, praying and all of that, and something came to my dad. Have you not thought about this thing that this is what you are seeing is not the problem, or the problem you are seeing now is just the evidence to show you that there is a deep-rooted issue that hasn't been resolved, and unfortunately, what we deal with is deeper than what actually is, and that is why it is very important that we pay attention, we take time to pray about things, we take time to study things for us to see beyond the surface because oftentimes what we do is we point fingers, but have we gone deep enough to understand exactly what it is? It's like we see something online, just somebody just caught a clip, put it online, I will say, Oh, I will start responding without having a good understanding of what is happening.

Find The Pain Under The Anger

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Number two, look for the pain, find the pain that triggered the anger. Now, this is going deep, right? This is going deep, so you're not just looking at the anger, but you are looking at the cause of it. You are looking at the cause of it. Find the what triggered the hanger. He said, It's almost always there. Look for it in your spouse and in your own heart. I remember a conversation that myself and my wife had. We don't ask, we just talk. So we must begin to develop the habit of finding out about things. Let's not just look at things on the surface, but ask questions not only to respond but to understand. Because it's the same thing too when we are praying. You don't say, Oh, I have only made my decision. Lord, what are you saying? Right? We pray to get answers from God. We pray to communicate with God. We want to hear what God will say. But if you have made a decision, you have decided on everything, and you discover that your prayer is more or less like I've already made a decision, now you're asking for God's direction. And I continue reading. What need isn't being met? What would has what wound has been exposed? What shame or fear is aroused? When you identify the pain, you will be miles closer to the solution. So when we look at all these points, the writer wrote here, we could see, or we can see clearly that this person is asking questions. The reason for his research, the reason for finding out is to understand. It's not because they just want to talk, but to really understand what is happening. Because he said when you identify the pain, you will be miles closer to the solution. But beware. By being vulnerable, you may end up wounding each other sometimes. Acknowledge it and forgive quickly. We're driving downtown in Boston, and the person was like, How can somebody be? I mean, I've been living together as husband and wife for maybe 30 years. And one day they just cover that they are strangers to each other, they don't really know each other. The activities of children, activities, activities, activities is what has engulfed them over the years that they've not built relationship. Intimacy, relationship comes when you take time to know your spouse, when you take time to know what angers them, when you take time to know their pressure points, when you take time to know who they are. Unfortunately, it can happen that we have been with someone for a long time and we don't even know who they are because we have not taken time to really know them. It happens every now and then.

Contributions On Vulnerability And Healing

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So embrace anger as God's gift and learn how to make it work for you. So the myth of anger is bad, it's incorrect. If only we do not allow it to rule over us. Unfortunately, so let us use every single thing God has given us, including anger. To be a blessing, to fight for the right of people, to help people. You see people on the street. Something inside you tells you this is not right. You get into politics, something inside you tells you no, this is not the way you should go. And you begin to support policies that will help the homeless, that will help the hunger or the hungry, that will help, you know, those suffering from one sickness or the other. That is the way we should channel it, and not to use it to destroy each other or even ourselves. May God help us in Jesus' name. Thank you all for listening.

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The floor is open for contribution.

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Um thank you very much. Um I d I think the way, you know, it's easy for us to say, oh, okay, make anger work for us like a tool for us, you know, to to onto discovery or and also walking closer to solution. But it takes effort just like it's been analyzed. We can talk about the analysis of our the the use cases that was used today in in in day two about directing anger the right target and looking for the pain. I and I think the second point is very key when you know for us to be able to truly know the triggers and the pain that that you know the anger is that is causing that pain. And I think that is very key for us. And I hope God in his infinite mercy can help us, for us to be able to overcome and be, you know, it will even say while being vulnerable, but most importantly, focused on you know what it, you know, it always is that time keep the maintain and maintain. For us to be able to do that, we need God's help. And for us to also be able to expose ourselves in those situations. You know, most of us we well, you know, well, you know, based on the way we've grew up or we hold things very tight. Especially I like, like I said, the use case today is basically, you know, in a in a in a relationship with our spouse, you know, that then tends towards the relationship with our work and also our colleagues and all that. But it is very important to understand that, you know, the this opening of discovering what is the essence for this thing. Why am I so, you know, instead of just running away from me like you said from from day one, you know, most of us we you know we're trying to, you know, because we don't want to reveal weakness out there, you know, because I only think about someone like me that is very passionate and I and it manifests itself in outburst of anger as a not only anger, the outburst of it, you know, and most of the time you find you look for places to isolate yourself, not to be able to truly express this thing. But there's also a message there, and I think that is very important today, and it's a great conviction, also revelation for us that you know, because the call the call is God already knows that we are weak, we are flesh. And each different situations that we are in is trying to help us to make us complete and perfect as we go through all the struggles for us to become who we're supposed to be, Christ. But if we are not opening ourselves up to be able to see be you know beyond the surface, you know, you think about it, okay, okay. I've been, you know, sometimes we put ourselves in a bind and like, oh, what you know, you're you said you're a follower of Christ. Why are you acting like this? When you see the true disciples and followers of Christ from the beginning, some of them, they were, some of them had those, you know, different kinds of characters that Christ, even though they walk with Christ, they were Christ was still, as He was with them, they were, you know, they were turning, they were changing, you know, as the as they were they kept changing to become who they were. But we we have to be able to expose ourselves into that situation, like you said today, for us to be able to, okay, what is costing us things? Why am I so, you know, when you think about the passion about the sadness, is it? Why is my soul you know, you know, the the deep question to be able to seek God and to be able to meet him in that place of pain that is costing his outburst, I think it's very key. And I think it helps us to be able to overcome this limitation, but also use it as, like you said in our devotion today, as a superpower to resolve things because if we you know you know we don't want to isolate ourselves because we don't want to showcase, you know. I like I said, growing up, we we got into a situation where it became mockers. Like, oh, are you are you said you're a Christian, you know, and you said you're this, you said, but there's a positive, like you say there, there's a you know, a way to be able to deal with this that goes to the root of you know, why are we angry? And to be able to truly put it in the right use where it is functional and it glorifies us, not you know, to to to you know to showcase our fully uh manifest first. And I think in between that place, that's where we truly need it. Right. Because when we overreact, or like I said, hardware for anger, right? The call is are we able to, you know, like you said, give ourselves a little bit of space and grace to see God at that moment so that he can reveal to us the deep wounds and pains that we are that is always coming on top, bubbling to the top. And if we don't deal with that, then we will continue in our specific space. But if we can deal with it, then we can use that passion to be able to do great things in our relationships and everything. And I'll go to help us because it's a difficult space. Like I said, I mean I'm someone like I know the thing, I deal with you know, you know, outbursts of anger. But if if we don't want to put ourselves in a position where we let the root of bit let bitterness take root in us that the enemy can now take advantage of it, then we become stumbling blocks for people to come to the knowledge of who God is and also ourselves, and I hope God will help us. Thank you very much, sir.

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Thank you, thank you, sir, thank you, sir. We need to do the work, and the work is to open up ourselves to God, and also to you know, understanding the reason behind the hangar, the cause of it, because until we do that, we will just be fighting unwinnable battle. May

Let It Go Before Bitterness Grows

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God help us in Jesus' name. Thank you so much. More contributions, please.

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Uh, we just thank God for today's world, and then each and every one of us, we have a way of expressing ourselves, you know, some in anger, some in mildness, some in bitterness and grudges, and you know, all kinds of things. But if we look at Ephesians chapter 4, verse 26, the word of God says there, be angry, be you angry, the sinner. So, which means be angry, it is not the sin in itself, but by the time you keep it, you keep it in your mind, you are bitter, you know, bitter and hatred comes in, you know, mildness comes in. That is the aspect that God, the word is say, see not. If somebody does something to you and you get angry, you express it, that's fine. But let it go, let it go, even between spouse. If you are angry, your wife does something you don't like, you are angry, you express it, that's fine. But if at the end of the day, maybe your wife is grieved or your husband is grieved, before if there's another place you say, let not the sun go down upon your rod. That means that even if you are angry, that is not where the sin is coming or the wrong is coming, it's where you keep it and start acting on it. Bitterness comes in, you know, husband and wife is like a roommate, you know, talking again. But a wise person just settles it before the day does, settle it, go to your spouse and say, Okay, that thing I said today, you get angry, please. I'm sorry, can we just look at it now together and get it settled? So that we don't open door to the enemy before you know what Satan does an accuser, and it will start expanding that in your mind, we bring many things that have happened before and put fire, put foil, you know, and before you know it, you don't let go, before you know it, it debris the fire mental pollution, and of course, it leads to so many other things. So to be angry, yes, but let it go. It is when you don't let it go that it generates to mildness and bitterness and every other thing. May the Lord help us as uh we both of you have uh brother Ayo and uh Sam have discussed, you know, we should let go, we should I ask for grace to be able to overcome it. Anger is one of the fruits of the flesh, the work of the flesh, not fruit of the spirit, work of the flesh. Anger is one of them, and the Lord will help each and every one of us to be able to overcome it. I have my own uh weakness in that area, you know, where you do something that is wrong, uh, you know, uh there's a way we can also express it, but sometimes you just don't you just don't find yourself doing it the right way, and you by the time you're out of it, you'll say, Oh my god, what have I just done? Like Brasan was saying, you know, I was laughing when he was saying it. You know, so that is it. May the Lord help us. We are working progress to strengthen us and help us to overcome the works of the flesh in Jesus' name. Praise God.

SPEAKER_02 38:21

Amen, amen. Thank you, thank you, man. That we must be ready to let it go. We must be ready to let it go. Every time we do not let um things go, is more or less saying that I have given control to anger to rule over me because what anger will do if it's in control is to cause outburst and continue to create other things that is far beyond what had even happened, and that's why we need to be very careful and see this as a reminder that giving anger control over our lives is not an option. Thank you so much, mommy. God help us.

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Uh, more contributions, please.

Jesus’ Example And Anger In Action

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Praise the Lord.

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Thank you so much, Brassam. Thank you, Brian. Thank you, mommy Bridget, for this wonderful topic this morning, and the way um each one of you has you know um you know contributed. It's really impressive. And uh, if we look at it very well, if we look at it very well, there you know, it's a how to make anger work for you. That is what he's talking about today. And our Lord Jesus Christ actually demonstrated that how to make anger work for us, you know, when it was the very first time that was recorded in the Bible when was when they turned the temple of God to the marketplace. Yeah, that was the first time that we saw our Lord Jesus Christ demonstrating, and uh after he demonstrated, you know, we should uh Braxam, thank you so much for what you made mention, even though I didn't hear everything, but towards the end, when you're talking, I heard you talking about many of us. This aspect of this anger, we can use it to build someone. Yes, when you see where they are actually suppressing order, you can be that person's voice. We see what is going on in our nation, Nigeria, right now. You know, you can stand and gap and be and using that anger to go before the Lord and pray. Those are this that's that's one of the things that is supposed to be used for Jesus used it the same way, he pointed what is wrong in the temple, making them to understand the temple of God is not a marketplace and he flogged them out. And guess what? After he flogged them, thank you, mommy Bridget, for what you say that we shouldn't let that you know the songs you know set on our anger. You see that after our Lord Jesus Christ flogged them out, he was the one that arranged the place again, sitting down with them again and teaching them the word of God, you know. But for us, what do we use the anger on? We actually, instead of us to understand the devil has come to steal and to destroy our joy, we will now join the devil. We support the devil instead of us to talk about the situation amicably. Okay, fine, you were you were angry, okay. I don't like the way you talk to me, I don't like how you do the thing. Mommy Bridget, thank you again because you said the wise one, you said the wise one will not start keeping my malice. That is what the word that you use, and I really love that word. The wise one, which means the one that is matured spiritually, that knows the well, the word of God, the depth of the word of God. We don't let that situation, you know, control their emotion and their action and action towards their spouse or whoever that they are angry with. You know, you settle it right there, you forget it right there. It shouldn't be like, okay, I'm not going to talk to you. Mommy Bridget, thank you again. Many of us we have turned our you know, spouse to our roommates. That is the word that you use. Many of us, you know, because of one little thing that we're supposed to address, but now we turn it and it become we now become roommates. We now open the door for the enemy. You can imagine every day, if you have settled it, it'll have it will it will have done just died down there. But the moment that you keep malice with each other, you refuse to talk to one another, then many things, enemy will now start depositing several many things in your heart, and that is where where the problems lie. May the Lord help us in the mighty name of Jesus. Let me stop there because of time.

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Amen, amen. We need to work on ourselves as individuals because one thing is for us to pray, another thing is for us to be to consciously look at these things and work on it, because until then, it will look like we are just intentionally. Allowing hunger to rule and destroy things. The truth is, as we all probably know, that hunger, what you have used years to give hunger can destroy it in one minute. If it's in control, and that is why it is not an option. There are things that have been said by you know people to their houses for several years. That even though they're forgiven, but for some reason they're still in their head. Like it was just said yesterday. So that's how these things can be. Some have to go to therapy for certain things that have been said to them out of anger in the past that they have been, you know, made to believe about themselves. Because somebody has allowed anger to rule over them and they have said things they shouldn't say. So this is very, very important for us. In fact, anger can make us to say certain things even to God. Probably we are praying certain things that happen the way we expected, and we just say different kinds of stuff that shouldn't even be said, you know, to God because we are angry. Well, God is merciful, God is our father. There's no way it can push us to write. But we need to mature into you know controlling and managing uh anger, particularly when it comes. May God help us in Jesus'

Settle It And Make Peace

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name. I hand over to you, uh Pastor. Thank you, Pastor Missis.

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Thank you so much. Uh time's very fast spent. But uh the only thing that I can just uh add to what everybody has said. Thank you, Brasam, thank you, Brian, thank you, mommy, Bridget, thank you, Pastor Mrs. Um Anger is a it's a tool that's available to be used by God and available to be used by the devil. Because God tells us get angry, but don't don't let the sun set on your anger. And the devil usage of anger is to destroy, is to kill. Because when you keep on harboring those anger in you, then you're operating in the side of the devil. But when you get angry, you sit down, you resolve the issue, and you move on. God said, uh, if you aboring iniquity in your heart, God will not hear you. And if your brother or your sister have sinned against you, go back, resolve the issue, then come back to me. Many of us go to the Lord with anger in our heart, and God is not hearing us. That is a problem that needs to be addressed. We need to find a way to resolve that issue and go to the Lord. Many people have issues in their heart with their spouse, with their friends, with their colleagues, with their in-laws, and they never let go. That's our iniquity. And we need to let those things go so we can get the help of God in what we need to do. I just pray that God will help us to be critically look at ourselves. Is there anything in us that we are not using to the glory of God? And Brassam said it. You may be angry, but if your anger is excessive and not glorifying God, you have a problem. You may have money. If your money is excessive and it's not glorifying God, you have a problem. You may have love, and if your love is not glorifying God, but it's glorifying itself, you have a problem. Anything that you have in excessive that is not great, bringing glory to God, you have a problem with them. So I pray that God will help us to be honest with ourselves. That anywhere that we know we have anything in us against somebody, against anybody, God tells us in this word, go and settle it. Settle it before you come to me. If we have anything in our heart that are not settled, I pray God will give us that enablement to settle them, and God will give us the grace to move forward and move on in the name of Jesus Christ. That is using your anger to your advantage. Use your anger to your advantage, settle them, settle them. Because when you settle them, God sees your heart that you are in truly want to make amendments. And when the Bible says today, Blessed are the peacemakers. Blessed are the peacemakers, because that is what God is saying. When you are settling angry, when you're settling discord, you are blessed. That is what the word of God is, and may God take us there in the name of Jesus. It's not easy. Uh, people step on your toe over and over and over. They did everything to you, and you're telling them to stop, they're not stopping. It's not easy. They provoke you, it is not easy. They they do things that is not convenient for it's not easy, but you must ask for that spirit of endurance, that spirit of understanding to know, oh, this is how they do, this is how they behave. So God give me the grace to handle their behavior, God give me the initiative to deal with the way they're doing things. So you will not be taking things personal anymore. You will know that yes, that is the way they behave. Not that you will condone them, but you can find a systematic way of helping them, that their behavior they will start seeing themselves as bad behavior and make correction because now you're not fighting them, you let God to walk in their in their heart. May God take us to that level in the mighty name of Jesus

Invitation To Accept Christ

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Christ. If you don't know Jesus Christ as the Lord and Savior, you need the Holy Spirit that will help you to guide you through what you need to do to not use anger to your disadvantage, but use anger to your advantage. And how do you get the power of the Holy Spirit to run with you? By accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, because He's the one that will give you the power of the Holy Ghost. All you have to do this morning is just repeat after me, if you will, that Lord Jesus, I know I am a sinner. I believe you're the Son of God. I believe you died for me. I believe you rose from dead for me. This morning, I confess you as my Lord and personal savior. If you say that prayer, we pray that the Holy Spirit fall upon you. Holy Spirit start leading you and start directing you in the pathway of righteousness in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Look for a Bible-believing church close to you. Tell them if accepted Christ and they will walk with you. If you can find a church, go on the internet. Type rccg.org, rccg.org, you will find a redeemed Christian church of God close to you. Tell them if accepted Christ and they will walk with you. But for the rest of us, uh, anger, it will be there. But how are we making use of them? Are we making use of them to create peace and relationship

Closing Prayer And Grace

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with God? Or we're making use of it to create enemy and creating a chaotic environment. If that's what we're using them for, I pray that the Lord will change our mind so that we can start creating peace in the midst of everything that we everywhere that we find ourselves in the name of Jesus. Father, thank you for your son that you've used this morning. We pray that, Lord, every virtue and all the contributors that have come out, Lord, we pray you replenish them back with multiple fold in the name of Jesus Christ. Father, we pray that the rest of the day is in your hand. And now that we've heard this, we know the enemy, we want to tempt us. Father, we pray for the grace to overcome temptation. When anger comes our way, open our hearts to undo them in the way that we glorify your name, in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Is there anybody struggling with the issue of anger and they don't know how to get out of it? Father, we pray you will send help to them. Father conviction in their heart that they will seek help to address that issue in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Father, guide our steps, direct our path, lead us in every pathway of righteousness in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. Thank you, everlasting Father, in Jesus' mighty name. We pray. Amen. Amen. Amen. Let us share the grace. May the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the sweet fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with us now, be with us forevermore. Amen. Surely, goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever and ever. Amen. I am the one the Lord has blessed, especially being Jesus' name. Amen. Thank you so much, but Sam, thank you, everybody. God bless you. Cover you with the blood of Jesus. May God give us the grace to overcome any temptation of anger, to use it to the glory of God in Jesus' name. God bless you.

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Amen.